Why you should thank the people who have hurt you most in life?. Автор: Вегина Полина. Работа №246965
WHY YOU SHOULD THANK THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE HURT YOU MOST IN LIFE?
The
people
who
were
able
to
hurt
you
most
were
also
the
people
whom
you
were
able
to love the
most
. We
aren’t
profoundly
affected
by
people
who
aren’t
already
deeply
within
our hearts. For
someone
to
have
that
much
importance
in your
life
is
sacred
,
even
when
it
goes
askew
. It’s a
gift
to know
someone
who
was
able
to
truly
affect
you,
even
if at first it
didn’t
seem
like it
was
for the best.
Difficult
relationships
often
push you to
change
your
behavior
for the
better
. In
feeling
helpless
, you learn to
take
care
of
yourself
. In
feeling
used
, you
recognize
your
worth
. In
being
abused
, you
develop
compassion
. In
feeling
like you’re
stuck
, you
realize
there
is
always
a
choice
. In
accepting
what
was
done
to you, you
realize
that
nobody
has
control
at the end of the
day
,
but
in
surrendering
the
need
for
something
we’ll
never
have
, we can find
peace
,
which
is
what
we
were
actually
seeking
in the first
place
.
What
you learn and who you
become
is more
important
than
how you
temporarily
feel
. That
relationship
may
have
seemed
almost
unbearable
at the time,
but
the
feeling
is
transitory
. The
wisdom
and
grace
and knowledge that you
carried
with you
afterwards
aren’t
.
They
set
a
foundation
for the
rest
of your
life
. The ends
far
outweigh
the
means
, and to be
grateful
for
what
you’ve
been
through
is to
completely
acknowledge
that.
You
don’t
come
across
these
people
by
accident
;
they
were
your
teachers
and
catalysts
. In the words of C.
Joybell
C., we’re all
stars
that
think
they’re
dying
until
we
realize
we’re
collapsing
into
supernovas
—to
become
more
beautiful
than
ever
before
. It
often
takes
the
contrast
of
pain
to
completely
appreciate
what
we
have
, and it
often
takes
hate
to
incite
self-recognition
.
Sometimes
the
way
light
enters
us is, in
fact
,
through
the
wound
.
Even
if it
wasn’t
your
fault
, it is your
problem
, and you
get
to
choose
what
you do in the
aftermath
. You
have
every
right
to
rage
and
rant
and
hate
every
iota
of
someone’s
being
,
but
you
also
have
the
right
to
choose
to be at
peace
. To thank
them
is to
forgive
them
, and to
forgive
them
is to
choose
to
realize
that the
other
side
of
resentment
is
wisdom
. To find
wisdom
in
pain
is to
realize
that the
people
who
become
“
supernovas
” are the
ones
who
acknowledge
their
pain
and
then
channel
it
into
something
better
, not
people
who
just
acknowledge
it and
then
leave
it to
stagnate
and
remain
.
The
people
who
have
been
through
a
lot
are
often
the
ones
who are
wiser
and
kinder
and
happier
overall
. This is
because
they’ve
been
“
through
” it, not “
past
” it or “over” it.
They’ve
completely
acknowledged
their
feelings
and
they’ve
learned
and
they’ve
grown
.
They
develop
compassion
and
self-awareness
.
They
are more
conscious
of who
they
let
into
their
lives
.
They
take
a more
active
role
in
creating
their
lives
, in
being
grateful
for
what
they
have
and in
finding
reasons
for
what
they
don’t
.
It
showed
you
what
you do
deserve
.
Those
relationships
didn’t
actually
hurt
you;
they
showed
you an
unhealed
part
of
yourself
, a
part
that
was
preventing
you from
being
truly
loved. That’s
what
happens
when
we
finally
get
past
hurtful
experiences
and
terrible
relationships
: We
realize
we are
worth
more, and
so
we
choose
more. We
realize
how we
blindly
or
naively
said
“yes” to
someone
or
gave
them
our
mind
and heart space
when
we
didn’t
have
to. We
realize
our
role
in
choosing
what
we
want
in our
lives
, and by
experiencing
what
seems
like the
worst
, we
finally
acknowledge
that it
feels
so
wrong
because
we
deserve
so
much
more.
Truly
coming
to
peace
with
anything
is
being
able
to
say
: “Thank you for that
experience
.” To
fully
move
on from
anything
, you
must
be
able
to
recognize
what
purpose
it
served
and how it
made
you
better
.
Until
that
moment
, you’ll
only
be
ruminating
over how it
made
things
worse
,
which
means
you’re not to the
other
side
yet
. To
fully
accept
your
life
—the
highs
,
lows
, good, bad—is to be
grateful
for all of it, and to know that the “good”
teaches
you well,
but
the “bad”
teaches
you
better
.